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suisse1997 commented on
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Yes. I’m not diagnosed but my feelings about him and us are constantly changing and it’s exhausting. Message me!

Do you have doubts that you love him

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Basically I’m doubting my feelings for my partner constantly. When I’m not FaceTiming him we’re (LDR) I miss him and think of him, then when I FaceTime him the doubts start coming in and I just notice all of his physical traits and analyze them. I focus on his ear his nostrils, it’s weird. Anyhow, I was watching a prank video on YouTube with guys on our campus here, and I liked this one guys reaction and thought it was cool then my mind was like damn he could get it and I had to keep replaying it because for a second I enjoyed it. I felt attracted to his confidence and assholeness in the video. I finally rewatched it for the last time hoping I wouldn’t feel anything. I then imagined a sexual image with him and felt horrible :( am I really just getting over my partner ?

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I would just leave it be... I know it hurts but guys are very sensitive to mental health and that could be the one thing to them that is a deal breaker. I’m dealing with mental issues myself. I know it’s hard but you need to leave him alone and let him fight for you, don’t fight it’ll push him away. Leave men alone, they will respect you so much more and chances are they will be more likely to return. How long have you two been dating?

Original Poster1 point · 1 day ago

i just can’t leave it, like i want to fight for him i know it’s terrible. he says he doesn’t love me like he did and it’s like a huge punch in the face. i know that the only thing wrong with us is me mental health which caused me resentment towards him. i obviously want him back and i’m trying so hard to persuade him to take me back but i’m exhausted and i just want to lie down and fall asleep with him. the thing is i want him, not just the benefits of the relationship.

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I know it’s hard trust me I’ve been through the worst things. The first time my boyfriend tried to end things I started bawling, full on panic attack and asked to go see him (we weren’t long distance at this time). I went to see him and I fought for him so so so hard. If I were you I would highly suggest to let him be for now, I know it’s very difficult I know it’s challenging and love is the most painful thing ever. If you go it may push him away even further, and you’ll regret even going! You may need to separate for you to get better on your own for now, you need to make him miss you. There’s nothing else to it. The long distance can be very hard on him as well and he may have lost hope. Leave him alone for now and see how things play out. It’s cringe saying this from my perspective because I’d probably be in the same position as you. But this is in the long run if anything going to HELP the future of you two if he decides to come back. If he was acting madly in love and now isn’t then that’s just weird, guys can’t just switch off their feelings. Give him space, he will love that

suisse1997 commented on

Girl you’re preaching to the choir. Message me!

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I called him back after I woke up and I asked him who the girl was but I immediately knew it wasn’t real, but the dream had felt so real. He was writing a follow up email to a recruiter for a new job and since it’s a girl he was making jokes that knows bothers me (it’s our inside joke). Then he hangs up cuz the recruiter calls him and I’m on FaceTime on his laptop, and she sounds young and I immediately start thinking they would go good together and why he was making those jokes, and he started pretending to lick the phone as if it was her and laughing cuz he knew how much it was pissing me off. And that just really hurt me and made things worse and honestly I just feel like I want to break up with him because of it. He knows I have morning depression and anxiety so he doesn’t really take me seriously. What do I do?

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Original Poster2 points · 3 days ago

Mine started with the idea entering my head that I was in love with my best friend or gay for him and oblivious to it. I had a semi-panic attack while hanging out with him and had to leave. I think I confused platonic feelings with romantic ones for like a split second and my OCD went nuts. I've never been physically attracted to men, only to women, but now I find myself questioning if I am or not. It sucks.

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Trust me I had that too around all my female friends once hocd started, even around family members I never had sexual feelings towards. I’m with my moms cousin who I’ve been close with for years and she like touched my thigh while telling a story just a light touch and I had a sexual feeling/ thought and felt sexually attracted and freaked out and had to leave and called my boyfriend. No matter how hard I try not to think about it I do and it fucking sucks, I feel like I’m fighting real feelings like I’m attracted to women now and my life’s over. Sorry if this is a trigger but it’s much more complicated for women

Original Poster1 point · 2 days ago

I imagine it is. Women are encouraged to be emotionally/physically closer with one another than men are so I’m sure you get triggered a lot.

My golden rule for this sort of thing is that if the thoughts are unpleasant, they’re OCD but if they’re enjoyable they’re you.

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Lol even saying that is a trigger because ocd ers feel like they even enjoy the thoughts eventually, it’s called groinal responses. Sometimes we don’t always have anxiety to the thought because it’s taken over our mind that much. If I was always a lesbian or bi I would’ve always felt sexually attracted to my family member but it’s also a FAMILY member which is abnormal even for gays. I used to have intense anxiety over the thoughts like panic attacks calling my mom crying pacing around the room, it was so scary. I’m still confused on if I came to a realization or it’s just ocd, I still don’t know :(

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No women have become more visually appealing due to your ocd that’s attached to the thought and it’s multiplying to an abnormal degree.l by every woman you see. Plenty of people with hocd go through this and it’s seriously mentally exhausting being in a relationship while doing so. For an example I’m with my moms cousin who I never felt sexually attracted to or had sexual thoughts, I’ve always been jealous and envious of her body but since the hocd started ive gotten thoughts that I’m sexually attracted to her. I’ve been hanging out with her all day and my mind is like wow you feel calm and tingly and are having fun/ not obsessing over your boyfriend as usual maybe it’s because you like her. Even when she says babe to her boyfriend my ocd gets alarmed because it makes me think I’m jealous. It’s not the case at all. I’m forcing myself to stay with her and expose myself because that’s the way to fight hocd. Idk why this is happening to so many people it makes me so sad... I think it’s a widely misunderstood disorder and it takes over people’s lives, especially if you already struggle with anxiety and depression.

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